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Oh yes, I have mood swings. For all of the above reasons -hormones, comming down at the conclusion of something, anxiety and uncertainty about the future- and also for no particular reason at all. I’ll be going along fine, having a great day, until suddenly I’m not. A sudden wave of sadness will wash over me and I just want to sit down and cry or crawl into bed and stay there. Then sometimes the opposite will happen and I’ll suddenly become giddy and start giggling for no apearant reason.
Most of the time I am sort of emotionally flat. But I thnink that comes from long years of suppressing my mood swings and attempting to appear normal.
I have also had several periods of major depression and anxiety so bad that I could not leave the house.
I can’t add much to the advice that @Scattybird and @Larynxa already gave you, except to say find what works for you. Everyone is different. I tend to go more towards the dark side, because that’s just who I am and it works for me. I like dark and depressing things. So, for example, where most people would choose to watch a comedy or romance, something light and inspiring, I would probably go with Mad Max, or some other post-apocalyptic end-of-the-world-as-we-know-it type of thing.
As for the anxiety over starting your new career, that is perfectly normal, but you are probably experiencing it a little more intensely than most people would. You have left your comfort zone, the world you knew, and you are venturing out into the unknown. It’s scary. And it makes you want to crawl back into your shell where you know you will be safe. And, if you are like me, you will come up with any excuse you can.
Here’s what I have learned: Worrying about it will not solve anything. It is a useless waste of time and energy. You cannot predict the future, no matter how hard you try. And believe me, I’ve tried. But the fact is you can’t know what will happen until you get there. It is possible that you will have trouble doing the job and that other people won’t like you or will treat you badly. But it’s also possible that you will do great and the other people will be understanding and friendly. A lot of it depends on the work environment. Some are just better than others.
The only person you have control over is you. And as long as you do the best job you can then you have nothing to feel bad about. If you struggle because of your learning challenges and your employer/coworkers react negatively, that is not your fault, it’s theirs. And remember, you aren’t stuck there forever. If the first place you try isn’t a good fit, maybe the next one will be. There is nothing wrong with changing jobs until you find the right one.
Many years ago, when I was looking for work, a friend pushed me to apply for a job i wasn’t sure about and I said “But what if they fire me?”. And he replied “So what? That’s their problem, not yours”.
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