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Scattybird, you must be a mind reader! WOW! 😀
Pretty much everything you said applies to my life EXACTLY: the need to be financially independent, the issue of a spouse potentially keeping me from reaching my full potential (based on experiences with guys I’ve met and their expectations of marriage – STIFLING!), and where work is currently treating us as “resources” instead of people these days. Ugh!!!
I’m blessed to have very supportive family and friends. Yet I find it fascinating that even though they see for themselves how much I enjoy my independent life, they keep trying, trying, trying to convince me to get married. Really!?! Why??? Growing up, my friends dreamt of their weddings and had names picked out for their then-non-existent children – in the mean time, I dreamt of a fulfilling career, travelling, etc. So far, things are working out well. It’s not perfect, and my newly-diagnosed ADD has been an unforeseen complication, but I’m still enjoying this journey. 🙂
You’re right, companionship may not be so bad if I did miraculously meet someone who supported me in my hopes and dreams (as I would support him). I find it mind-boggling that the guys I’ve met expect me to drop my life and simply fold into theirs – more like a marriage of subservience instead of a partnership. Yeesh! No way!!! :p
Thank you again, Scattybird. It helps to know it’s not just me. 🙂
For you married ADDers, what has made your relationships work? What are the challenges (whether married to an ADDer or a non-ADDer)?
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