@Lailamoon786, I’m a confirmed singleton, and I now see that I’ve been that way my whole life. My reasons are pretty much the same as yours. And because I’ve seen how toxic an ADHD “mixed-marriage” can get, as I look at my parents’ marriage—like a cross between the Costanzas and “Who’s Afraid of Virginia Woolf?”.
I’ve heard of several ADDers who have a great marriage, and sleep in separate bedrooms to keep it that way. It makes so much sense, that you wonder why our culture thinks that it’s “wrong”. Besides, that “norm” of sharing a bed was historically something only done by people who were too poor to afford separate beds or separate bedrooms.
I think the key is really knowing and understanding who you are, and what you want from life. It doesn’t matter what the rest of the world thinks you ought to do; do what actually works for you.
My brother and I are very lucky that our parents always taught us that marriage and children are the biggest responsibilities of your life, and if you don’t feel completely ready for them, DON’T DO THEM. They taught us the facts of life, starting when we were very little, and always emphasizing the tremendous responsibility of it all.
They’ve also NEVER asked us, “When are you going to get married and give us some grandchildren?”REPORT ABUSE