No it is not just you.
£Wanna know my list?
Doing the groceries= work
Calling friends= work
Choosing/buyng a present for an imminent birthday= work
Showing up at dinner/party/bbq= work
attending your kid’s end of the year play= work
Not to talk about the chores! The funny thing is that it is often ME who brings things up in conversations: “My god, the car is filthy! Oh dear, we still have to install those shelves! Hey, shouldn’t we paste the pictures of Adam’s 5th birthday in our photo-album? You know, before he goes to college?”
On a more serious note.
I remember reading one article about procrastinations which had a brilliant insight, perfectly applicable here: for some people everything should feel good. Which is pretty silly when you think about it. Guess it’s part of having unbalanced brains. It’s like some people have one of those drop counters to keeps them supplied with a regular stream of satisfaction and tranquility so they can go about their days with no problem.
I’m more like a junkie who cannot get his kicks but by doing some special thing, while everything else seems tedious and pointless.
and the minute I say that something “must”, it’s the minute I’m practically writing it off my list of priorities.
On the other hand, we could use this to propel the quest for a more meaningful life.
In the words of Joseph Campbell:
“Your real duty is to go away from the community to find your bliss.
The society is the enemy when it imposes its structures on the individual.
On the dragon there are many scales. Every one of them says “Thou Shalt.”
Kill the dragon “Thou Shalt.”
When one has killed that dragon, one has become The Child.
Breaking out is following your bliss pattern, quitting the old place, starting your hero journey, following your bliss.
You throw off yesterday as the snake sheds its skin.
Follow your bliss.
The heroic life is living the individual adventure”