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@Jh531, the reason we can’t remember where we put something, is that our mind was on something else when we did it, so we have no memory of doing it.
You can’t REmember what you never membered in the first place!
How do we solve this problem? By forming habits, like concentrating on always putting our keys in the same place at the same time. Once something becomes a habit, we don’t need to think about it; it happens automatically, even when our brain is a million miles away.
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Do be careful about going through the “Do you have your…” checklist with your boyfriend. It changes the dynamic of your relationship from “partners” to “parent & child”, and that can lead to resentment in both you and in your ADHD partner.
Melissa Orlov’s book, “The ADHD Effect on Marriage”, is very helpful at understanding and working through the challenges of an ADHD “mixed-marriage” relationship.
And Rick & Ava talked about relationships, on this episode of Attention Talk Radio:
http://www.blogtalkradio.com/attentiontalkradio/2013/10/24/we-plus-adhd-creating-great-relationships
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