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I totally identify with this insecure reflex to do for others and smooth things over. Surely a big part of ADD for many, and presumably full of psychological meaning – especially for the late diagnosed.
Whatever the reason, I think just slowing yourself down in conversation to figure out the practicalities is all that is required. Justifying yourself is not necessary, and the fact that you might want to is kind of the red flag that you need to think differently about yourself, and perhaps look twice at what was actually asked for.
Double checking what I have been asked for always reduces what I think I have to do A LOT, but also tends to shorten the time I have to get it done A LOT.
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