Reply To: Question about happiness

[Phil, Just Phil.]

Hey Tyler, welcome.

Wow, another post sounding familiar.

I too am married, with three little ones no less, and as the working half for now I find myself stuck in a job to pay the bills.  Not getting anywhere, in 10 years I have moved up about 4 pay grades when I probably should be up about 8-10.

I am currently looking at doing University, thinking of a not very ADD friendly one in accounting, but I do all the accounts payable stuff here in addition to managing all service faults and doing anything and everything that is alittle off centre or requires some original thought.  The rest of the crew here just go gaga and haven’t got a clue how to get it done.  But my paperwork is a mess, get the results screw the reports.

So I think bettering yourself is always a good thing, but remember that yopu are just one half of a whole and you need to be on this journey with your wife.

Speaknig of wives, does she share and support your diagnosis?  This is a crucial thing and I am working on it right now, stricking the balance between, “it’s an excuse” and “I really need your help” because you can’t use it to escape your responsibilities, nor should you beat yourself up because of the way you are wired.

Where am I going with this????  I am not really sure but YES better yourself, but beware of dsoing too much too soon and placing too much pressure on your other (better??) half, she is already stressed I’d say and you need her buy in on any journey you wich to take.  Makes it all much easier.

 

BTW, what do you want to do??

 

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