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“I think the government programs that are set up, should be used temporarily as a way to becoming independent. They shouldn’t be used as a sole means of support for the rest of a person’s life. As such, maybe it is OK for the programs to not provide everything, or make a person uncomfortable. Isn’t the goal to become independent?”
That’s the problem. The programs DO NOT help you to become independent. It’s exactly the opposite. They make it impossible for you to get ahead. Every case worker I have spoken to, for both Welfare and Disability Support, has agreed with me.
Your comments sound a lot like what all of us have heard our whole lives. It’s your own fault. You’re just lazy. If you would just try harder you could do it. If I can do it then why can’t you?
Well, if we were all identical clones living identical lives with identical circumstances, and we all just happened to be lucky enough to be in the right place at the right time, maybe that would be true.
I have typed and deleted more responses to this than I can count, trying to come up with the right thing to say. In the end, I am going to go with @helenboll:
“The question is if you want to look at people as a whole or as individuals. Do you want them to be treated as equals or differently according to class or capability?”
More eloquent, to the point, and polite than any of my responses.
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