Reply To: v-day blues 2013

[shutterbug55]

I have been giving this a lot of thought and one of the things I have seen here in this thread and elsewhere in this site is a true connection of respect and “love”. Not the St Valentine, commercial, buy chocolates, hearts, Hallmark, sex, love. I am talking about the real thing: That would be respect, empathy, thoughtfulness, sacrifice, the list goes on. To me that is the real deal.

Among other things, when my mind wanders, I study languages. I collect them like most people collect butterflies. The Greeks have two words for love: AGAPE and EROS. EROS is the physical, where AGAPE is the feeling, the thing that settles deep in your heart; the thing that gets you through the bad times as well as the good; the thing that makes relationships; the thing that I believe is eternal.

It seems like the world has replaced the agape type of love, which as I believe, is the real deal, with the superficial eros, physical love.

I have no time for the superficial and other distractions. I am on a mission to discover me. I want to discover the truth about me. I want to know how to work with this thing called ADD. I want to be able to work with my limitations and understand them for what they are. In order to do that, I need to be truthful with myself and with how I perceive the things happening around me.

One of these searches for “truth” I have spent my whole life looking for, is the agape. I was blessed by finding it with my wife. I have also found it with several other people in my life.

I think the world has been substituting a lot of real things for their lesser and hollow counterparts, not the least of which, is love.  As someone who suffers from ADD, I see through that, because I have enough to distract me already. I am on a journey to find the truth: about myself and about the world around me. My hyper-focus is pointed toward figuring out what is real not made up in my mind or made up by other people.

I don’t want to be part of yet another commercialized, superficial, “Hallmark” celebration of something that I believe is much more profound. I think that is why at my house, I celebrate Arizona Statehood day.

This may seem strange coming from a guy, but I want the agape love that comes from feelings. I want something real. Real connections. Real belonging. Real love.

I hope you all find those real things in your lives. I hope you all make sense out of this thing we call ADD, and can celebrate it. As someone who suffers with ADD, I understand those moments may be fleeting, but celebrate them! I know I do, and I don’t need a Hallmark card to do it.

 

 

 

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