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What’s normal? I’ve tried to figure that out but don’t know…I keep hearing…there is no normal for me cause I’m not normal and you’ll never be normal…So What’s normal?
This message doesn’t even sound normal…so I think you and are normal because we’re both not sure what the post was about. I have an idea if we can get a few more people to not know what there post is supposed to be about then I think we’d have enough people and majority rules…we’ll have normal on our side.
Whatta think!
Good Night
Elizabeth
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Hi W_W,
I hearing what you’re saying and the depression can be difficult a long with everything else that you are feeling. I would love to tell you that what you are feeling or going through is all part of the symptoms but I don’t want to minimize your feelings / thoughts. I believe that we are all very hard on ourselves because we “should” be able to do what everyone else in life can do and I have come to the conclusion…not in my life time. I can’t keep up and I get overwhelmed and want to turtle. I came to some sort of conclusion that I’m happy to do what I can do and I have realized that I can’t compare myself to someone who doesn’t have adhd. I also have made it a point to live my life one day at a time. I have short term goals and long term goals. I do know that sometimes these goals change or I have to tweak them but that’s okay…it’s part of life. The other thing I have done is actually asked for help…from my husband, coworkers, friends…and because of this i’ve enjoyed more of the little things in life. Also, I will take a little bit longer to complete something. (given that I have a timeline that allows for a long time period to complete). I’ve reduced the about of excuses I make and so it has been easier…I would say to you be a little bit more verbal with your thoughts without being too aggressive.
So, have some fun with life and live in the moment…life is far to short to live it for perfection.
Have a great day today
Elizabeth
REPORT ABUSEHello PammyJean, I do understand what you mean by hurling the nearest large appliance and I’ve really made a point of keeping track of how I feel every month. Since Ive done that I can actually figure out more or less when / why I’m feeling overwhelmed. I find I can judge what I need to eat or stay away from…also, my family is a little safer from my unpredictable behaviour
. I dont have small munckins anymore but we all do get our period at the same time so my husband probably suffers more than anyone else. I have spoken with my dr and well it’s always the same…it is only a couple of days in the month and it’s not worth changing the meds. I do find I stay away from caffeine / wine during that time and find I need to work out a lot more.Half a marathon, excellent…who cares about the house as long as you don’t find a extra child all is good…keep us posted on how you are doing. I’ve competed in the world master games in Edmonton – I was involved in the sprinting, 100, 200, 400 and played soccer and it was so much fun…I have to give you absolute credit because we had to run 5 k every week and I hated the long distance. So…good job. I did medal in the relay races and a bronze in the 100 and silver in the 400…we are set to go to the Italy games.
Bye for now!!
Elizabeth
REPORT ABUSELove this forum conversation. I became a stay home almost immediately. I was married at 23 and pregnant 9 mnths and 1 week later
(just in case my very european mother finds out) before that I went to school to be a secretary hated it and somehow became a dental assistant. I enjoyed it but couldn’t get certified because I didn’t have the focus to complete the independent studies. I knew how to have babies and that is what I did. The girls and I had a lot of fun but my house was a mess and I couldn’t stay on a schedule…long story short I divorced 6.5 yrs into my marriage.I went back to school and took Marketing…to my surprise I graduated with honours (I had to work 10x harder). When I completed the program. I need to pay loans and bills. I had bought my own home and it needed help and so I needed to make money. Sales, Sales Sales is what I thought I needed because I was always on the move and most people liked me and buildiing and securing relationships came easy to me. Securing the sales, problem solving, delivering the product was my forte, but paper work oh my God not happening and my employers also felt the sameand the clients but I got away with “people like me”.. I typically lasted at a job for 2 yrs and the got bored. First time I was fired was at 41 yrs old…couldn’t believe that they had waited 2 yrs to do it. I dove into my own business – am a relationship coach who specializes in matchmaking. I am very successful and what I enjoy the most is the different people I get to meet and work with. I realized that what feeds me is watching someone understand why they made the past relationship choices and then watching them practice what the have learned in a relationship with the person I have matched them with.
I was ready to throw in the towel a year ago because I just couldn’t keep anything organized. My assistant was ready to kill me and my husband was feeling neglected and I did’t know why I was feeling crazy and nolonger knew anything about myself.
I absolutely have found my way and I find that I work through mot of my to do list and since the meds (july 09) I feel, what we call, “normal” and creative and ready to just leap forward. Did I fall into matchmaking and relationship coaching “yes” and I believe it was because I allowed myself to focus on what felt good and that was happiness and creating awareness for someone’s elses happiness. I always had people / friends / co-workers asking me for my personal advice so I thought I need to do more here…and I I certified myself as a life coach and professional matchmaking and startrd my business.
I realized it is all about time and patience because life and love will buy time and patience but it won’t buy busy or avoidance.
This is long but I do understand everyone…I believe we are too hard on ourselves to be absolutely everything right now because we see everyone else successful. Define your own success and write it down some where and look it all the time. Take TIME to get there…practice one change at a time. Create a baseline first then move on to the next…we all know the big picture we will get there..I hope this helps…
With “Love” in mind,
Elizabeth
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