Anger is a common problem for people with ADHD. It’s not a traditional ‘Anger Management Problem.’
‘Some people go through life feeling angry, almost a chip on the shoulder attitude, “I dare you,” blasting at anyone and everyone that comes across their path. That is NOT… what people are dealing with, with ADHD.’
Dr. Kathleen Nadeau
Co-author, ADHD-Friendly Strategies to Organize Your Life
Many standard ‘Anger Management Strategies’ are ineffective for people with ADHD. They demand self-awareness and the ability to pause. That’s not us. ‘Take a deep breath and count to ten?! Are you kidding? I have ADHD!”
‘There’s no escalation… it is like a light switch. They are exploding before they have any time to stop that process.’
Dr. Candice Murray
Clinical Psychologist with Expertise in ADHD
In this video 13 ADHD specialists explain why some folks with ADHD seem to enjoy picking fights and arguing. It’s a form of Self-Medication with a neurochemical a payoff.
But the costs are severe. ADHD-driven rage can ruin relationships, careers, and the health of everyone involved. The good news is, there are simple strategies to turn down the emotion and prevent outbursts from happening.
This video will show you:
- Why ADHD leads to sudden, unexpected rage in adults and tantrums in children.
- How timely snacks rich in protein can prevent emotional meltdowns.
- 7 Strategies for ADHD Anger – from well-timed snacks to exercise to Mindfulness.
- How to ration your willpower, so you can pause, and choose your reaction.
- The power of ADHD medication to interrupt anger before it escalates.
Learn how to ‘Name It to Tame It to Claim It.’ Simply stopping to notice and express how you feel in words instantly gives you control.
The good news? As frightening and random as these outbursts may seem, there are 4 common triggers, which happen to be part and parcel of ADHD.
‘When ADDers feel strong emotions they feel them so strongly they’re afraid the emotion is going to shatter them. So they have to react to it. They feel they have to react or they’ll be destroyed by it. It’s that strong, sometimes.’
Barbara Luther, MA, MCAC, MCC
Master Certified ADHD Coach; Director of Training: ADD Coaching Academy
It’s time to understand how certain ADHD symptoms lead to explosions of anger, and what you can do right now to manage them.
‘We need to be able to get angry. But anger should be like a sneeze. It should happen and be over.’
Dr. Edward Hallowell
Coauthor: Driven to Distraction at Work.
Author: Worry: Hope and Help for a Common Condition
This powerful video offers sensible practical solutions that can save families, marriages, and careers.
- ‘There is a region that I call the Upset Zone, that is very predictable. It has to do with fatigue, with hunger, with repeated frustrations that build up during the day, with needing a break and not getting one. So often the explosions occur in reaction to a very minor frustration, and seem completely out of proportion.’ Dr. Kathleen Nadeau PhD, Clinical Psychologist, Director of the Chesapeake ADHD Centre of Maryland. Coauthor: ADHD-Friendly Ways to Organize Your Life;
- ‘And its not like the rest of the population don’t aggravated… But the lengths and the steps to which some folks with ADHD take, who aren’t being treated or managed properly, often times lands them in trouble with the law.’ David Giwerc, Master Certified ADHD Coach, Author: Permission to Proceed
- ‘It’s normal to have arguments in relationships. But there is a difference between a healthy argument and it segueing into a fight. So I talk to people about arguing in a constructive way and getting things accomplished. Rather than talking about the same thing over and over again.’ Dr. Stephanie Sarkis, Author:
- ‘Women with ADHD certainly get very angry, but that may be expressed differently. It’s more likely to be expressed in yelling. It’s more likely to be expressed towards people that they feel very safe with– their parents, their immediate family members.’ Dr. Kathleen Nadeau PhD, Author: A Complete Guide to ADD in Adults
- ‘Walking on eggshells… The person with the ADHD is trying to get their brain started. Some of us have a cup of coffee. Some go for a run in the morning. And for some people it’s picking fights. This is almost a learned behaviour for trying to get their brain started.’ Laurie Dupar Psychiatric Nurse Practitioner, Registered Nurse Practitioner; ADHD Coach Author: 365 ways to succeed with ADHD:
- ‘The person that has ADHD may not even remember that fight or the specifics of it. And the other person literally is a puddle of emotion, “What happened!?”’ Laurie Dupar PMHNP, RN, PCC, SCAC, Founder: The International ADHD Coach Training Center
- ‘The essence of living with ADHD is that big things and little things tend to go wrong all the time. We’re dealing with someone who by virtue of just having ADHD has a problem with impulse control.’ Dr. Kathleen Nadeau, Co-author: ADHD Friendly Ways to Organize Your Life. Author:
- ‘Non-ADD women say, “What am I the house hold slave? I have to do all this stuff and the only time my husband comes and finds me is when he wants sex. So I’m not going to give him the sex because that would be saying this is okay. And it’s not okay.’ Melissa Orlov, Author: The ADHD Effect on Marriage
- ‘Touch it. Feel it. Give it a name… “I’m angry, I’m upset, I’m frustrated!” Research shows the moment you give it a name you diminish it’s power over you.’ David Giwerc, Founder: ADHD Coaching Academy, Author: Permission to Proceed
- “Finding this funny approach to a serious problem has helped me immensely and my children who also suffer.” – CW
- “This video helps us to understand why our recently diagnosed ADD teen goes from zero to explosive in a blink on an eye.” – Stephanie
- “Highly recommend!” – M.J.
- “Very well done!… Sometimes it’s vey hard to get people with ADD to go to a Doctor or therapist to talk about their issues. Having this information available to see in your own home is very helpful.” – SLN
- “Finally, a rational (and entertaining) explanation for the terrifying rages I had as a child, and my mom has now!” – NSF
- “This is a great video, and I think one of the best ones in any media format for understanding and treating anger management in ADHD folks, along with basic remedies for our emotional disregulation.” – Grant Crowell
- “Anger can lead to disaster for adults with ADHD – and their partners! In this engaging video, TotallyADD pulls the experts together to give you nine great ways to keep anger from ruling your life. A terrific and incredibly useful video about ADHD and anger.” – Melissa Orlov, author of two award-winning books on the impact of ADHD on adult relationships, ADHDmarriage.com
- “For those of us living with ADHD, an emotional reaction can happen—BOOM!—often driving us to take an impulsive action we may regret later. This video from TotallyADD shows us that being aware of the internal distress of BIG Emotion and growing the skills to modulate our responses to them is not only essential, but absolutely possible!” – Don Baker, MA, LMHC – ADHD Therapist, UnpackingADHD.com
- “With a magical blend of ADHD experts and the honest humor only TotallyADD can deliver, this must see video shines a light on the subject of ADHD and Anger. Learn about Anger and ADHD as experts talk about this common challenge and find out how to stop those out of control 0-60 outbursts.” – Laurie Dupar, Nurse Practitioner, ADHD Coach and Trainer, CoachingForADHD.com
- “A practical, useful and informative video with enough entertainment value to keep you watching. Anger is such an important topic. If anger is a challenge for you, as it is for many with ADHD, then this video is a must watch.” – Dr. Ari Tuckman, PsyD, MBA, author of More Attention, Less Deficit: Success Strategies for Adults With ADHD, TuckmanPsych.com
- “ADHD and Anger is an important video that underscores the reality that not being able to regulate anger causes more problems than any core ADHD symptom. People can forgive disorganization and distractibility. It is harder to forgive verbal or physical aggression.” – Dr. Candice Murray, DrCandiceMurray.com
- “If you are an adult with ADHD this video will significantly improve your practical understanding of how to manage the perplexing puzzling challenges of anger and ADHD. It will empower you to learn more about how to manage your anger and ADHD so it no longer destroys important relationships at work and in your personal life.” – David Giwerc, MCC, MCAC, BCC, Founder & President, ADD Coach Academy, ADDCA.com
- Edward Hallowell
- Candice Murray
- Kathleen Nadeau
- Margaret Weiss
- David Giwerc
- Stephanie Sarkis
- Laurie Dupar
- Patrick & Janis McKenna
- Kate Kelly
- David Teplin
- Melissa Orlov
- Ari Tuckman
- Barbara Luther
- Don Bake