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please note I didn’t “belittle” anyone – and only said if the poster is uncomfortable with it, then they need to talk about it.
it’s not for everyone.
If it’s for you and all involved agree, great.
But if there is discomfort now, and “talk” doesn’t help, then why stick with it?
It’s not for everyone is all I’m saying – some can’t deal with it. Some can. Those that can’t are asking for trouble if they force themselves to say “it’s ok, it’ll be fine” but have doubts.
Like all other things, if there is doubt, there’s a reason, and hiding it doesn’t fix it.
It would appear from the first post that there are doubts.
It’s like marriage with a non-open relationship. If there are doubts, then get them resolved.
No one in any relationship should take on a pet, child, whatever, in such cases where there is doubt as to the long-term stability of the relationship. The stress of such responsibility won’t make it better, and often leads to decay of the relationship instead.
What I read in the first post appears to me to be doubts…… and a certain uneasiness. Get that checked out, resolved, or ended before any joint commitments.
Psychology classes roughly 30 years ago is where I read my info. Things have probably changed. It was comparing humans and animals.
I know a lot has changed sine then, including the recent discovery of other primates that actually normally practice incest and sex with the immature offspring.
Scientists in Europe have also since then published studies that support a theory that the human brain is hard-wired to believe in a god or gods. I know that sure goes against the grain, but it’s in a recent scientific paper with the supporting studies.
trashman has some good points (again)
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