Re: Open Relationships

[Anonymous]

Well I just want to first off start by saying thank you to everyone, whether you feel you are of any help or not your responses are apreciated.

She and I have discussed out “status” before several times. The most recent time was just a couple of weeks ago, and I dont know if that is something to share or not; regardless it doesnt change the way things are to date. I guess you could say that we have always agreed that we were just friends. Time and time again we start off that way, then after a few weeks we start to get back into the same routine of going out starts up. The amount of time that we spend together starts to increase again, the feelings come back and then before you know it, we’re buying a dog together trying to figure out what to name him. (just an example, we dont go out and buy dogs on a regular basis. By the way his name is Mowgli and he is half black lab, and half golden retriever ( a super water dog) He’s 6 months old and is one of the sweetest puppies ever. Back on topic.

jeneticallymodified:: Yes the dogs are my biggest concern. Dug the first dog was obtained before things started getting the way they are. Over time we’ve gotten really close (he and I) and I think things might be ok for him if I wasn’t around so much. Mowgli on the other hand is still so young, I dont want him to get attached to me. Its too late for me. He’s a cuddle bug.

Nimthiriel: thanks for the defense, i’m not so used to that but yeah thanks! way appreciated.

Paul: Its good to know i’m not the only person who does this kind of thing. I’ve been in this situation before with other girls in the past. Non of them have ever been quite like this though. Usually “we” (not the current girl but me and girls in the past) come to the point where something happens between the two of us (usually me rocking the boat) and we both get mad, get in a fight and its over within a week or two. She (the current she) and I have gotten into some tiffs, but never a full on fight. Its usually me being mad at her or her mad at me. We take a day to let it pass and the next day we are fine like nothing ever happend. We talk about it later and its resolved. I always say i’m not a jelous kind of guy but no matter what I do, no matter what I eventually start to feel that way at some point in time. I’m pretty good about it though and it passes with time.

Open or not, no matter what you call us I guess the thing I need most I cant find here. I can only look for comfort, and advice until the time comes. Maybe one day it will work out between her and I.

I’ve alwasys told her I”‘d rather be misserable with you in my life than happy and alone” She’s very important to me, and I’m not sure how i’d take it if she suddenly taken away from me….. not that she’s mine or anything.

I’m not so good in the relationship department and I know I allow myself to be in this situation. At some point in time i need to mature up and just face it head on.

The real question was how do other ADDer’s handle open relationships, not if they are right or wrong. Not if we are predispositioned to do such things. Like if anyojne knows about a secret button behind their ear that is behind my ear but I dont know its there that can turn off my brain or the part that makes me think. Oh, thats the whole brain; crap.

For serious now, thank you all so much

kylep

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