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not trying to brag, but your 2 relationships put you waaaaay ahead of the zero relationships i’d racked up at 23, and no way would i have got into an apartment either. :P

part of the whole ADD and depression cycle, i think, is that we get down on ourselves, and combined with our awesomely creative powers of rapid, bouncing off the walls thinking and running of on tangents and making tenuous leaps all over the place, we manage to get ourselves wickedly depressed, and then go around in big tangly circles of negativity in our heads.

looking at it another way, you have a diagnosis. great start. you do manage to hold down jobs for several months- great! you’ve got somewhere to live (woohoo!) and you’re clearly a smart person- which means you have oodles of potential just waiting to be utilised, you just need the right support strategies and help behind you.

have you got a doctor? if so, if i was you i’d get referred to a psychiatrist and get working out some meds for your ADD so you can think half-straight. at the same time see about getting referred to a psychologist, who can help you through your feelings and to change some negative patterns, avoid pitfalls and traps, etc. when you’ve started getting those two bits working together, see if you can get a socialworker on board or get a decent careers assessment done- that’d help you work out what you CAN do, not what you can’t. there may be a whole bundle of short college courses that’d be great for you, and give you the confidence and practice to move onto something bigger down the line- if and when it was right. there may be an ADHD support group in your area that you don’t know about, some funding and subsidies you could get hold of, etc.

there are a lot of good people out there who can and will help you through this stuff- you just have to ask them, and keep chipping away at it. i do know how hard that is, i promise, but once you do, it’ll get better. :)

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