Thank you Hans!
Pro help is in the picture and things are improving. 
She is aware and we are making progress. Some days more then others.
I guess I lost my point 😳 it was about making change and the impact one partner’s inability to accept their responsibility prohibits progress and creates frustration. Until both are working together and forget about being right or wrong progress will be slow. Learning about being more patient is one on my list therefor this is a give-give situation, imho. Which is far better then the take-give place we were in.
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