Re: having to rebuild your self-esteem

[Anonymous]

This is what I’ve learned over the years, and especially over the last month or so:

Live in the moment. This is probably the most important thing you can do for yourself. Living in the moment means beginning every day as a new day and not carrying around the baggage of the past. Think of the mighty Phoenix, rising from the ashes. And do that every single day of the rest of your life. Refuse to let anything dampen your spirit for more than 10 minutes.

Deal with problems and obstacles as they happen and not before. You can go through the whole litany of What Ifs, but at the end of the day, they might not even happen. But if something doesn’t go the way you hoped, take 10 minutes to be mad or upset and then shake it off and move on to Plan B. Acknowledge negative thoughts and then let them go. Visualize sending them out to sea, like little baby sea turtles.

Assume everything will have a positive outcome and not a negative one (see Living in the Moment). Don’t base your assumptions about other people’s reactions on things that have happened in the past.

You can do this. From now on, I want you to stop saying anything negative about yourself. Look yourself in the mirror and smile. Be kind to yourself. And every once in a while, treat yourself to something special, even if you think you can’t afford it or don’t deserve it. It could be something as simple as getting a haircut or buying a new shirt, or treating yourself to your favorite food that you don’t have every day. What it is isn’t as important as the fact that you are going through the deliberate motion of treating yourself like you are your best friend.

YOU ARE A WORTHWHILE HUMAN BEING and you should start seeing yourself that way. Nothing else really matters.

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