Re: I “came out” to my employer

[Anonymous]

Stargoop……. I’d be careful……really careful….many HR departments in a conflict situation line up and back the management team,sorry, that’s what they do. I know this may not be morally or ethically correct, but, none the less, it’s true. All the legal support and human rights documentation is nice to know, however, mostly it’s bureaucratic bullshit…..the application and execution (the reality) may leave much to be desired when tested in the workplace. Managers will generally back their managers……sorry but you asked.

I don’t want to come off a negative or cynical …..but… I’ve seen and experienced this kind of immoral behavior by HR and management or management teams in my career, and too much of it!!! I was on both sides of the fence, staff and management……I’d be careful. The seemingly friendly “open door” policy is often completely the opposite.

If I had had another avenue, other than open confrontation, I would consider examining that first. I only say this from experience, I personally was always supportive and gracious with my staff, they would walk through fire with me ………..always……but, I observed many, too many manager/supervisors who were not. I never understood how they got to be managers, but they were, what does that tell you about the people above them??? If I could get out from under that person’s supervision ASAP…..I’d do it, do it as soon as possible…..try do it without doing myself any damage, but I’d do it!!! Making any sort of verbal charge against one’s supervisor while working directly for them is….hmmmmm…… dangerous, and would almost always go badly. It’s true…..

Here is my rationalization……if my supervisor has already exhibited behavior that is more than questionable, unethical at best, and is using undermining controlling behavior as a tool (bad choice)…. if I would think he/she, will suddenly become forthright and ethical if it comes to open an open conflict situation (your ass or theirs), I would be dead wrong, wrong wrong. I would expect the lies, expect exaggeration, misdirection…..and more. They will not go down for this, they will do or say anything and I mean anything, to save their own ass!!! To think an unethical person of low morale fiber will suddenly turn over a new leaf and do what is right, would be magical thinking on my part!!! Honesty is what is needed here….. it’s a tuff spot. If nothing else I’m honest, brutely so…..handing out Adderall to one’s boss, that’s trafficking in amphetamines……in the work place!!! That will not bode well for anybody, if that fact was brought to the table……your word against their’s kinda thing…..damage done. Consequences of that could be devastating.

To resolve this, I would keep my head down……give them no reason for rebuke, nothing….I would never ever share medication ever ever ever again, ever…..I would also try my hardest to bid out on a different position, in the mean time, I’d be on time always, always always…. be early, I’d make sure my manager saw me being in early. Subtle, I’d walk by say “good morning” so they knew…thats all. I’d do my work, I’d be a star, I could do that, and I’d keep this to myself the whole time (if I needed to share, it would be with a counselor for ensured privacy)…….and, I would get away from my supervisor ASAP!!! It’s their game, remember that…….but I would beat them at it….and win.

Just my take…….this not intended as advice…

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