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When you have a supervisor approaching you and trying to blackmail you into giving them medication I would invest in a pocket recorder and whenever the issue comes up make sure you say that “The medication was prescribed to me to take care of a medical condition. It would neither be ethical or fair for me to give you any medications and that if she/he feels that they need medication it would really be best for them to see a doctor.” That way if you are still taking the medication she will not try to turn it around and use it to exact revenge.
As Toofat said the system usually backs the supervisor not the employee. Even when they are totally wrong they usually get the benefit of the doubt and you get none. Since you have been striving to curb your tardiness and you are conscientious with your work habits make sure you give this person no reason to complain. If your employer is complementing you and then the supervisor then turns it around and tries to undermine you make sure you ask that they put in writing and add to your file any positive feedback. You can simply state that you want it to be there for your staff review and that if it is in writing it helps everyone remember it in a few months time. If it is true they should have no problem putting it in writing. It is also ammunition if this supervisor decides to be punitive at review time.
A bully boss often finds one person (or a few) to pick on and they hound this person until they quit or a new target comes into view. This type of behavior starts early in their life and continues on until they get too old or they are stopped. If you know a few others whom this person is picking on or who have been picked on in the past ask them to write letters outlining what happened. When it is one stray animal in the herd the herd often closes them on the outside. When the bully is confronted by a larger number then they can be stopped. But before you go this route make sure that these people are committed to going forward. Examine their reputation and make sure that you won’t be labeled as a bunch of belly aching whiners who don’t want to work and just trying to get someone else in trouble. Then go to management discreetly and ask them if they have a few minutes to sit with you because you have encountered a problem that you really don’t know how to deal with on your own. Then lay out the problem and ask them to help you brainstorm some solutions. You don’t want to cause trouble or suggest anything. Then listen to what management has to say. From there you will have a better understanding about the type of organization you are working for. In the meantime document, document, document. Then if you have to go outside of the company it isn’t just your word against the company supervisor.
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