Re: Can't do anything right.

[Anonymous]

Hello Game Guy!

Thank you for posting about our mutual inside voice and maybe.. MAYBE because we share it I can at least offer how i’ve handled the situation you’re talking about. It’s too easy for us to process others words and internalize them as the voice of who we are, that isn’t fair to us or the person desiring to connect with us. What I’ve done and work hard to remember to do daily is STOP myself and thoughts in their tracks, ask the person to slow down or repeat back to them what they’re asking of me and break it down. Often I have people belittle me, call me down (they actually do so that part is not perceived) or treat me like a child so to stand up for myself I use an assertive voice and stop THEM from going on with their rant.. I become instructive and say “okay, let’s break this down” and as they speak I look them in the eye and repeat whut i’m hearing. I do not remind them that I am adhd but rather remind them that to assist them best I’d like to be sure it’s 1) written down and/or 2) repeated back in both our words so they can also hear whut they have said.

We never have to allow others to belittle us, always use a gentle smile and look them in the eye, say their name to them so they know you are listening and be sure to put it on your immediate follow through list. If they are STILL not satisfied, take the high road and tell them that when they will agree to work with YOU you’ll be delighted to assist them however you’re able to, time pending.

That inner voice is the dark dude my friend. We can function out of the light of how perfectly and wonderfully we’re made. If you’re a man of faith remember that Jesus knew us before we were born and wanted us as we are to be a light for him to shine. I rely on that teaching whenever I work with my individuals who are btw.. disabled, truly humbling.

God Bless

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