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Memzak, I don’t think anyone ever loses the stabs of fear, uncertainty, guilt, shame, or negativity. It is simply a matter of how quickly we develop the ability to cut off the negative thought, knowing it simply a thought, not reality, and replace it with something better.
And yes, crying releases a lot of tension and stress. For everyone one of who have lost a loved one, it’s amazing how the tears come, then subside, then return, always, it seems to me, in balance with out ability to handle them. Like a safety valve on a boiler, popping open now and then to release the excess and prevent an explosion.
In an emergency situation, people don’t cry until after everyone has been taken care of and there’s nothing more to be done… When one of my kids was about 5 she had a health crisis, around asthma. I was strong, firm and did what needed doing. Drove to emergency. Waited patiently. Comforted everyone. Listened to the Doctor. Got the medication and special inhaler system, hooked it up and strapped it on to her face. When it was handled, and she was fine, sitting with her breathing mask on, placidly watching My Little Pony, that’s when I lost it.
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