Re: There's a “tone” to my voice that everyone hates

[Anonymous]

Offence…and a gate…and a small potting shed!! LOL!! I have trouble being impatient with my husband. I FEEL impatient with others sometimes, but I only GET impatient with him. I have a terrible time with boundaries and luckily haven’t been in too many situations where that was really important. The one situation where I needed to be firm, though, and wasn’t, cost me a lot of money. (I was helping a homeless person with housing and she failed to keep up her end of the bargain–that of gradually assuming responsiblity for the payment of the rent herself.) I meet once a year for a three day stay with my four cousins and my sister and they are all much more assertive than I am. I am the oldest but not by much. I rarely “stand up for myself” and sometimes I put up with something for too long and then my cousin says I overstep the line and become “aggressive” rather than assertive. I feel like such a nicompoop. I wish I could learn to do it “right.” The trouble is: if you don’t speak up for yourself as it (whatever It is) is happening, it gets much harder to speak up later, and everything gets worse.

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