Re: Is there really “nothing positive” about ADD?

[Anonymous]

Woooooo……we got a hot one here boys and girls!!!! Never so stimulated as when things are contested…..puurrrrfect! I used to be up for a good round or two but now I’m too lazy, and really I don’t seem to give a shit, I’ve slain enough dragons in my day!! However, maybe just this one thing…. P-P and I seem (at least in this context) on very similar paths…….and different from some others completely. It makes for wonderful debate, full of emotion…….is there any other kind???

As I a read and respond to this thread…. I call my partner to read our posts (from time to time)……she says (hahhahaha) if he doesn’t think your ADD or that it is mild…..let me post a reply…. I’ll tell him just what it’s been like living with you for 40 years!!! Now…..whoa kiddies, don’t get offended she did it with a bit of a giggle too.

What this all really goes to show is, this is really a poor communication tool…..90% of communication is non-verbal and all of those non-verbal Q’s are missing, leaving raw text open to others interpretation. Also to share the total of a life experience, education and lifetime of character building in 2/3 paragraphs is impossible….CAN’T HAPPEN. We share what we can….yes…and back manage the misinterpretation as best we can.

Anyway….yup, P-P and I it seems are/were career stars…..so what? Was it easy….not on your f*%@#kin’ life!!! P-P I get it, I retired early ( it was a great package)……..I burnt my candle real real bright too….I understand your fear of dying in the harness Ok…Yes, to another point… I was diagnosed years and years and years ago by a Dr. an MD….. and yes, Obama has an American birth certificate……that’s kinda what this feels like……not that I care really, I’m just sayin’. Next, I’m not sever hyper, but a constant tapper, I spontaneously jump up and dance around my house and the office (in the past)… for no reason than for the joy of it. At times I dance when I walk, or when I am just standing, or burst into two bars of “Oklahoma” …so what. As for interrupting or blurting out, I learned to be mindful of others when conversing. I also took courses and trained myself to be an “Active Listener”(my ADD likes busy)…. it took a long time to get over speaking mechanically, until I absorbed it into my persona and speech patterns. I still am a little outspoken and my language is harsh but…….I learned to temper my rudeness with humour….people expect it from me, everywhere, all situations appropriate and otherwise, and they find me a funny guy fun to be around…they find it endearing actually. Not that my partner would always agree…hahahahhahaha. So there, I’m a social creature if they don’t like me “screw em’….. but I did learn to listen, trained myself to listen, and manage my compulsive outbursts and offensiveness. Watch Robin Williams, ADD in action, inappropriate, rude, interrupting, but he makes it work for him he’s made millions being ADD!!!!!

Further to the above points….severity is interesting and hard describe by degrees it is so subjective. P-P and I were career success’s….Pete was an A student…….me it took SIX….6…..1,2,3,4,5,6 read em, 6 years to complete high school, couldn’t comprehend Algebra or Physics..AT ALL. My last year, the school phoned me at home, I got 50 in Physics and 51 in Algebra, I know they were gimmies, they didn’t want me back for seven years….BUT…once in University….I flew…..but gave up full time study because of the anxiety of trying to write papers. Couldn’t do it, could speak in class, debate with my Profs….they loved me, were amazed but always asked……. what happened???? I expected so much more from your paper!! Duh…ADD, can’t put a fine point on written things…

My office at work looked like an exploded paper factory, our office receptionist would just throw my mail on the floor of my office as she walked by…..cause it just didn’t matter, it was wild. But……I could clearly see problems and the future of the industry (instantly), I knew the company failings…..I knew how to change it…..I could speak that all day long…..but as in University, I could not write it!!! So………????????

I learned how to make presentations simple one or two line statements….followed by 4 to six bullets of evidence or process or what ever. I could speak to audiences (small or large on my feet) and keep my train of thought via the presentation format. I hired writers as part of my project team, they (one in particular ) over the years taught me how to write in “Information Mapping’ and analyze what

I read and wrote into fine points, using the same tool. It’s a simple process that kind of emulates presentation slides. So I learned to write too…wooohoooo!!!! Another good tool for ADDers, maybe???

I guess I could go on and on but really……I gotta go wash my motorcycle, I was planning on getting that done this afternoon.!!! oh ya…..they don’t actually say ADD tools on the box or the course write ups….but if one is driven, they are out there.

You know…….if folks want info, they just have to ask, but asking somebody who will just tell them that they are broken toys probably isn’ the best source……….I’m just sayin’.

toofat

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