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This is a really delicate situation and no-one here can really advise you what to do as we don’t know you.
That said, your boyfriend doesn’t want to have sex with you and you are feeling rejected as well as sexually frustrated.
Your boyfriend is having lap dances and getting girls’ phone numbers.
He is talking to girls by text.
You say he’s eager to be with these other women.
He doesn’t respond to you sexually.
He doesn’t respond to your concerns when you try to address this issue with him.
On the other hand, he’s very attentive otherwise, keen to be with you and to have you involved with his family.
Is it possible that he’s got some deep sexual hang-ups and would rather have sex with random women than someone he’s close to?
Whatever the problem is, it’s something I think you need professional help with. It doesn’t sound like he’d go with you, but maybe it would be useful for you to talk about what you want out of the relationship and how much sexual contact with other women you’re comfortable with him having. (By sexual contact, I mean exchanging numbers, lap dances etc. I am not suggesting that he’s having sex with these women.)
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