Re: International ADHD Consensus Statement

[Anonymous]

Nellie, I agree that the statement is not something I would show to strangers, employers or

any other casual acquaintances, were they alive, I wouldn’t tell my parents. And it sounds

as if you have found ways of adapting to ADHD. I didn’t know I had it until I was 60, last

summer. Despite a history of problems that are purely ADHD stuff, it didn’t occur to me nor

did it occur to any of the medical “professionals” that I saw during that time.

I did not learn to adapt, nor did I think to attempt to camoflage my ineptitudes or failings.

I knew something was ‘wrong’ but not what .. beyond the lost jobs, ruined relationships, anger and etc.

Do not know why .. but it didn’t happen. Add anxiety, depression, and anger to ADHD and I am ‘it’.

On the other hand, I agree totally with thrust of the document.

ADHD involves

a serious deficiency in a set of psychological

abilities and that these deficiencies pose serious

harm to most individuals possessing the disorder.

I have no job and no prospects of one, too old and disfunctional to get retraining,

my social life is me inside avoiding people, cause I can not seem to get along with

my neighbours, marriage is a mess .. most of my behavior was and is confrontational

and verbally abusive .. working to change that but drugs are not working and I can not

afford to buy a guide … granted, I am not being “made” to be angry or abusive or

anxious, that is behaviors that I do. It is proving to be a daily battle to remember what notes

to re-read so I can try to repair the damage my behaviors have caused.

And I get to do it by reading library books .. and trying to avoid pitfalls of depression like self pity .

I my mind I hear my parents mantra for the past 58 years :

” it’s your bed so you can lie in it.”

Anyway, end of pity rant, back to reading ADHD in Relationships.

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