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Interesting dilemma. How does the lad’s aunt (and her side of the family) judge him and how does this impact on him? His impulsive language and employment troubles seem to be the sticking point for her? Does his mum try to protect him from the results of his actions and is this why his aunt thinks he hasn’t had to face the consequences?
I would try to help if there was a rift between my kids. I hate the interfering parent thing, but I also know that experience and a little distance may be able to help me offer some observations. I love that my mother in law does this – she has a way of cutting through the crap.
Can you see what the issues are from both sides? Does the auntie realise that ADHD is different in everyone and maybe her nephew is having a harder time with his than she did? Does mum realise how much auntie went through to get to where she is? Maybe she is desperate for her nephew to have more success than he’s managing at the moment?
How much of it can you unpick and how much do you think you could constructively say without upsetting anyone?
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