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Yes @Rick is a wise old man (lol). I have been trying to Dom this one a bit more as well and I find it helpful to continually remind myself WHY I can’t just say yes to everything. No doubt it is an uncomfortable thing to say no to someone, not sure how they will wheel, not wanting to let them down, etc… but remember that if you say yes to it all then you set Yourself up to disappoint even more by not delivering, this is much worse.
Try the old trick they blame on our public service workers here, under promise and over deliver. If you think it will take an hour, say 2 or 2.5, then if you do it in 45 minutes because you hyperfocussed you will look like a superstar (or you can add some padding at the end to make it seem like it took an hour or so). That way when you aren’t in the superman zone and it does take you longer it isn’t as much of an embarrassment. (Kinda stolen from ADD and Mastering it regarding issues with estimating time, think the scene with the toys on the bench for twise who have seen it.)
Anyway, @Larynxa pretty much hit it, but that would be my 2cents.
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