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[Scattybird]

Hello and welcome. I am NOT an expert, but I will throw in my responses anyway – beats getting ready for work! Have you done the quiz on this site? It might give you an indication of whether you have ADHD or not.

1. When a person suffer with a stronger Attention Disorder, like ADD, Autistic tensile present?

ADHD is a spectrum ‘disorder’ so some people will be inattentive (sometimes called ADD), others will be a bit hyperactive (but in adults this may be less obvious and more an internal restlessness) or one might be a mixture of both (combined) – the last two are sometimes called ADHD. Actually they are all ADHD but with different sub-types. As you say there are different degrees of it. There are said to be some links with autism but I don’t know much about autism. I do have a colleague with autism and he tends to be very focused and socially not at ease at all – but that’s just him. ` Someone else will reply who knows more about autism.

2. Some people with ADD,say they have social problems, when communicate with others, (i know evryone can have social problems) but is there any reasons i can connect ADD, with social skills.

like slower thinking,hard to focus? etc.etc

I think it can be partly due to lack of focus and also if there is an impulsive side there can be ‘foot in mouth’ issues that cause tensions, or if one has a sense of humor that’s different from the people you’re with. Someone was telling me a tale the other day and I became aware of his mouth moving and sounds coming out, but I just couldn’t latch onto any of the words. Other times I ‘switch off’ mid-sentence or get impatient and finish their tale for them, which of course is bad.  In a crowded room situation I can’t focus on individual conversations if there is a lot of background noise so I hate group situations. Also, I get bored. People here like to spend an evening in a pub (or bar) and just sitting trying to converse all night in a noisy environment is so tedious for me. 

3. Is it common that people with ADD, can have difficulties having eye contact, or is this more common with autistic people, maybe low self esteem or something?

 I think that’s low self-esteem, or autism or depression? 

4. I have also read that people with ADD, might have motor clumsy units, is this true? and what would it depend on,  (thinking alot?)

I have heard that too. Not sure if there is a link, or whether that is a co-morbidity like dyspraxia. On saying that, if I am sleep deprived I am more clumsy and sleep problems are associated with ADHD.

5.  Personally if i speak for myself, its like evrytime i shall do something, maybe i deside to walk into an other room, and i know someone sitting in there, its like i always say the sentence iam going to say before i actually say it to the person, this is not only when i talk, also when iam thinking.

is this a common problem with ADD, or is it only me thinking alot?

It’s you thinking a lot….but that is common with ADHD.

6. when i was little, i always was very courtesy and withdrawn is this a common problem with ADD?

Me too. I was brought up to be seen and not heard, and always to respect others. That’s my perception of myself – withdrawn as a kid (and now).  However, relatives who were adults when I was a kid think that I was precocious and outspoken (and they still think I am outspoken – and I still think I am reserved, although I can act a clown and can be outspoken when feeling impulsive).

7. At someway i have having trouble like being serious, a big part of my life was not serious dicussions it was more like an extreme joke, we joke very extreme and didnt talk so much me and some friend, it was my lifestyle i couldnt not stop it. we talking some years.

its like black and white, joke or serious, can i relate this to something?

A great sense of humor is typical of people with ADHD. There are threads on the forum dedicated to all the amusing things that we get up to…not always intentionally. Sometimes humor can be used subconsciously to gain friends and be accepted socially. Sometimes it backfires. But a sense of humor is healthy. 

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