Reply To: How do I go on ..when everything is being taken from me

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@JustMe

Larynxa gave you a good list of resourced there.

I don’t really know much about these kinds of things, but I think maybe you should talk to your doctor as well and let him/her know what is going on and find out what you can do to fight the mental instability claim.  Unfortunately once you get that label stuck on you it’s damn hard to shake it off. It shouldn’t be that way but it is.  Get copies of  Dr. Jain’s assessment and and any other more recent medical documents that may help.

In the meantime, it is very important that you give the appearance of being stable. It is perfectly understandable that you are feeling depressed, but you have to try not to let it show in any situation where he could use it against you, like when you have your visitations. And don’t criticize him or lash out in anger or say anything negative about him to your kids or anyone else who is involved. You have to take the high road so that everyone can see that you are the better person. And that way you can’t be accused of  trying to turn the children against him.

And document everything, like the others have said. Also a good idea to never be alone with him or have any conversations without a witness.

 

That’s really the only advice I can think of. Except to buy a punching bag and paste his face on the side of it. Like I said, I don’t really know anything about how these things work. And I don’t know how he is getting away with it either. Some people just seem to be able to get away with anything. But you keep fighting and get as many people on your side as possible. Don’t give up. Remember what you are fighting for.

Best of luck.

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