Giving up on doctors.

[Anonymous]

It has almost been a year since I have seen a psychiatrist for ADD. She was the third within a year. I have taken this into my own hands and starting taking homeopathic meds. Days like today, I just want to give up. My bf watched the videos from totallyadd.com and realized how ADD I am. I am 48 years old divorced mother of 3 sons. My oldest is married with a child. My middle son is much like me but doing well. My youngest who is 18 lives with me and is finishing High School. My biological family (two older brothers and my dad) have never been able to understand me. My heart is broken as I sit here in the middle of the mountains of NC leaving my home in SC because I couldn’t take the trauma anymore. Irrational and life altering transitions that I am paying a price for. I am volunteering for a local homeless group run by mostly those who have been homeless. I understand how many of them feel they do not fit in. Thank you for letting me get this out.

Peace and abundant joy.

Mudslinger

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[Anonymous]

You’re not alone, especially here. I think you should keep trying to find a doctor who is a good fit. In four years I went through probably 8 therapists and quit therapy several times. Now I have the most wonderful therapist. I can’t wait to see her each week.

I’m on my second psychiatrist in the same period of time and seriously thinking of changing. He has put me on so many drugs and combinations of drugs with little result. Ironically though I was being treated for depression, one of the drugs I’m on that helps is Ritalin (prescribed for the depression, not ADD).

It will get better.

Peace to you.

Karen

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[Anonymous]

After being diagnosed, I took Adderall for less than a year then tried to get by on my own. I’m about your age and have had huge losses – career wise and socially, because I stopped the meds. I think the overwhelming majority of people do better on meds. An exception might be if you have a job that is a great fit for an ADD type brain (such as sales, with a support person to handle the paperwork and scheduling for you) and a spouse who is willing to take on the home responsibilities that an unmedicated ADD person cannot keep up with.

Unless you have an exceptionally supportive situation like that, and have had counseling to learn to pick up on social cues or to outright ask people to be explicit rather than subtle, I think you are making your life harder by not taking the meds.

I have ADD, depression and anxiety and am on meds for all three. I should NOT have stopped the meds years ago – I lost out on a lot.

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[Anonymous]

I am frustrated with my psychatrist, mostly because he is the specialist in adult ADHD I feel like he is frurated with me. I don’t really feel comfortable with him so really I am wasting his time and mine I just felt that with him being a specialist that he would be more supportive. I also asked if he felt that it may be benifical for me to be re assested but he just blew it off, I feel it is very important that I have reassurance that I do not have something that maybe “mimicing” ADD when I was 18 I was diagnosed with “a form of” ADD and to me that is like saying…. ya you “kinda” have a cold. It leaves to much uncertany for me, what if it is not a cold what if it is allergies or what if…….. most of my family do understand that I want more of an answer and lots has gone on in my life since that diagonsis. I am going to book an appointment with my GP and see if he knows of someone else that can help because I am at a point in my life where i NEED help and I need to stop wasting time.

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[Lindstr7]

BreeW,,,,yes you certainly should if you are not comfortable with this doctor. A psychiatrist should be supportive and if you feel you are not being heard, then there is a disconnect between you and him. Being assessed for these types of conditions require an open relationship between you and your psych. If you feel you’re being talked “down” to then you will likely hold back or question yourself. Many people switch psychiatrists until they find someone they fell they can develop a rapport with, these are very personal issues.

I absolutely agree that it is a waste of time if you’re not feeling better. DEFINITELY talk about it with your GP, be open and honest and tell them you’re not feeling better. Be assertive and don’t let them try to brush off your concerns. Sometimes you have to just hold your ground and not let them try to convince you your concerns are not valid. You are your own best advocate. I would try writing down or making a list of your concerns before going in so that you don’t feel stressed to remember everything. Good luck and visit here often for support.

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