The best phrase I have ever heard!

[Outoftune]

So I was looking at the comments under the Quiz for idiots that Rick wrote and saw a comment by a poster that really stuck with me…

I hope they don’t mind that I’m reposting their phrase but just had to share it!

“thanks for your advice. I’m already seeing a medical-school-trained professional doctor/psychiatrist/etc, but I will let you know if there’s a job opening. In the meantime, do you have any business cards? I’d like to refer my friends to you”.

This not only made me laugh so hard I spat out my tea but really made me think…If someone I knew said to me I have cancer no one would say no you don’t they would believe the diagnosis the Eurologist had given you wholheartedly.

This phrase just really resonated with me and I really wish I had the guts to say that phrase especially the part about the business cards with a completly straight face and get out my wallet to put the card in and everything. Wouldn’t that be awesome?

it gets so discouraging being constantly ‘informed’ by ignorant people all the time

REPORT ABUSE

[Anonymous]

Everyone has an opinion. Few actually have facts. I love messing with the uninformed people that try to tell me “facts” that they’ve heard from “they” and “them”. It’s discouraging but I’ve found that finding out as much info as I can about the subject makes me feel better and more comfortable around people that just think they know about it.

REPORT ABUSE

[Anonymous]

I loved that too! But what is scary to me is that even doctors significantly disagree about this stuff. In the ADD and Loving It video, one doc says the way he was trained to deal with ADD in med school he would now consider malpractice. So who do you trust? My psychiatrist is just dealing with me as one of 20 patients he saw today. He’s not a specialist in ADD, and he’s not experiencing the effects of the meds I’m on. ADD docs should make house calls–that way they can see what they (we) are dealing with firsthand.

I want to meet the docs who write the books!

REPORT ABUSE

[Anonymous]

From reading most of the recent ADHD books and the bits on the web,

I suspect that there are less than 100 medical professionals who know

a good deal about ADHD and are sufficiently trained and experience to

provide any significant help.

Happily, ADHD is such an individual type thing, that it is really unlikely that,

at this point in the century, anyone know enough about the specifics of ADHD

and brain chemistry to be of any really significant use to any of us.

It is part of the challenge of ADHD life to have to wend one’s way through the thickets

REPORT ABUSE

[Anonymous]

I was the culprit who posted it. Can you believe that I was on a NARCOLEPSY specific yahoo group, and someone had the gall to give me amateur psychotherapy advice on how to deal with my family – did I mention that it was unwanted as well? I had only asked for some help with wording for a response phrase for people (like my brother) who say “I have that, it’s no big deal”, and this idiot moderator walked all over me with unwanted and useless advice. Well, let me tell you that I tightened up the wording on my response pretty darned quick after that, thank you moderator, and by the way, I just unjoined your useless group.

Sorry, I’m in a ranting mood today. But that’s how I came up with the phrase. glad you all liked it! I haven’t used it except on the afore-mentioned yahoo group. It didn’t get a very nice reception ….

REPORT ABUSE

[Geoduck]

Well, we love you, no_dopamine! LOL!!!

Somebody posted a link to a video on facebook, where this kid is being told he has ADHD, and the kid turns around and says, “Prove it!”

Basically, it’s an “ADHD is a made up thing” video. I started a response, but got nowhere. Really, I know she’s in denial about her kid, but that doesn’t mean the rest of us don’t have feelings about being told, “It’s all in your head.” Women have been told everything is in their head for years! You’d think we’d be over this sort of thing, or at least more sensitive about it.

I wanted the video to go on and have the doctor bring out the DSMV form, and the kids grades, and the kids parents, and the kids siblings, and the grandparents. Really, it’s not that hard to prove, and a very mild thing, in the larger scheme of things.

Plus, it’s not like ADD is some new thing. Just because they are only hearing about it now, doesn’t mean this is a just figured out thing. It’s been around for a long while. When I point out that prescriptions for ADD medications have been around since the ’30’s, and diagnosis of one sort of another that are related to ADD have been made for even longer than that, people seem dumbfounded. They have no idea. Yet, they’ll tell me how to take care of myself. Thanks. Where did you say you went to med school, again?

Oh, and if one more person tries to sell me one more pyramid scheme snake oil treatment, I’m gonna scream.

REPORT ABUSE

[Anonymous]

I like your version “where did you say you went to med school?” – much shorter.

Thanks, geoduck, I needed that little hug. This site is the only place I feel comfortable. Normally I am a pretty upbeat person, but it’s been an unusually difficult week (many things went wrong, most of which we had no control over – isn’t that life?), and I had to let off a little steam.

I actually had friends leave a video and a bag of their MLM (pyramid) products at our apartment once, we simply left the bag at their house the next time we visited them, without a word said. Go ahead and SCREAM, I wouldn’t be offended.

REPORT ABUSE

[billd]

WOW, another one I can TOTALLY RELATE TO! Especially lately.

“Oh, yeah, I have that, too. No biggy.”

Don’t you want to virtually slap ’em?

Here at work “well xxx has that too and he’s doing fine, it’s not causing him any issues, so you don’t need any accommodations either”.

I have names for them, but not in public in the company of fine folks and FAMILY folks here with young teens looking on……………..

REPORT ABUSE

[Anonymous]

“no biggy? – well I guess my doctor wasted xxx years in medical school learning all about ADD, how severely it can impact one’s life, and how to help sufferers improve the quality of their life so they can approach NORMAL – which you are OBVIOUSLY NOT”. 😆

REPORT ABUSE

[Anonymous]

It seems that the information is being accumulated so fast that most doctors are unable to keep up with it. If you find one that knows what they are doing and actually keep up with the research then hang on to them!

REPORT ABUSE

[Anonymous]

adamb, I think that was already happening 20 years ago – when I was first seeking a diagnosis for narcolepsy – my mom finally got me in to see her doctor and he admitted that sleep disorders were taught for all of 10 minutes in med school (and if many med students are severely sleep deprived, he could easily have slept through that or missed the class). I’m happy to be referred to a specialist, my doc has admitted she knows nothing about ADHD and wants a formal diagnosis before treating it. At least the specialist is on top of it.

REPORT ABUSE

[Robbo]

A sense of humor is a wonderful thing to have. Especially when I realize I was the ass who gave unwanted/inaccurate advice, and later on found out I was wrong but had no way to undo my mistake.

Making huge mistakes sucks a lot, but somehow I have to find a way to just learn, forgive myself, and do better next time. Maybe it pisses me off when people screw up cuz it’s the same kind of screw ups that I get angry with myself about.

Sometimes I think the Ritalin, and Wellbutrin is like magic self restraint potion. Especially when I’m trying not to interrupt…

REPORT ABUSE

[Author]

Posts