Re: Had my assessment… not what I expected

[Saffron]

Aww, that is just demoralizing. (Gee, thanks for all the listening and validation, doc…)

I can’t add much to Larynxa’s excellent response, but I wanted to chime in and express my support. I’m really urked on your behalf and I can only imagine how terribly unsettled this must make you feel.

To answer your question: I was fortunate to have an assessor who took me at my word regarding childhood. This was partly because a close relative of mine was already known to have the disorder, and partly because the assessor recognized that girls were not often called out for the same types of behaviour as boys were when we were kids. I know that I appeared much more disruptive in Brownies and Girl Guides, for instance, than in school, because I didn’t have any boys stealing my “thunder” in those settings. In class, I was probably seen mainly as socially clueless and don’t remember *ever* garnering comments about behaviour on my report cards. Yet my scouting leaders called my mother on several occasions to tell her to rein me in.

Finally, my partner was asked to attend part of my assessment — and he scored me higher than I scored myself. That probably locked it up. (“Wow, I DO that? Good example. I’m sure she gets the picture now. Um, okay honey, that’ll do. Thank you… Thank you and GOOD NIGHT. Stop now, please.”)

I hope that you won’t give up, Betty, even if you have to cut this physician loose and seek out someone more qualified. I do realize that there may be a large fee involved, so I also hope this assessment hasn’t drained your resources.

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