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I am another ‘wife’. I am so worn out I have no idea what to do next. This latest episode has lasted since last November, with 4 or 5 ‘peaks’, every couple of months. I have no way of anticipating when the next ‘moment’ will strike, and how bad it will be, this time. We seem to get into the middle of a moment before I realize that we’re there; for example. Dinner; Husband: Why do we have to have 4 vegetables for dinner? We never have 4 vegetables. Me; Sure we do, remember the salads, we had tomatoes, mushrooms, lettuce, green peppers, olives and so forth. Husband; No I dont’t remember. and before you know it, I’m providing examples of meals with several vegetables. Then I realize where I am, and I say ‘if you don’t want the veggies, don’t eat them.”
My husband has manipulated therapists for more than 20 years. We will be married 38 yrs this year, and his behaviour has always been complex, a little fact I hadn’t noticed til we married. He has anxiety attacks, panic attacks, moments of rage, and goodness knows what else. he has a physical disability, and so people tend to be lenient. He is supremely negative, and can remember nothing which gives him pleasure, so he can’t return to it, when he feels down.
I know I am not crazy, and I have no idea what he is. I hope it is ADD, and there is some medication which can help him. There was a good book entitled, How to Survive when They’re Depressed. But there are times when I have such chest pains, that I wonder if I am having a heart attack, and if this will be the one that kills me.
Help.
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