Re: In a spin.

[Anonymous]

Hey Lynuplate —

I hear you. And you are very much not alone. You need to know that. You are describing things that I have been through, my partner (who is also ADHD) has gone through … It is really important to breathe.

That’s right … breathe…

Breathe and know that we are wired so that when we feel something, we feel it intensely. So when we sense something is wrong, like we can’t control it, we automagically go into a tail spin.

Thing is — you can control it.

Breathe again.

On the uber practical side, I would encourage you to explore cognitive behaviour therapy. There is a great workbook called Mind Over Mood that helps you to track your feelings, actions, reactions — that sort of stuff. Also, just keeping a journal, like Rick said, is a great idea.

I’m also in a job transition stage. Lost several gigs … now I am starting to understand what I need, what I am good at, and what I can delegate. Until recently, and inspite of a great deal of success in my career, I was darned if I know what I am going to be when I grow up and I’m in my 40s as well.

Then I realized I figured it out — in no particular order, I want to be: A good mom; A good partner; and Someone who walks and lives with compassion.

Good luck with your journey Lyn (man not woman) and keep posting. You have a network who cares and understands.

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