Re: Emotional Torment Over Seeking a Real Diagnosis

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These posts remind me of what my regular doctor asked me when I said I was seeking diagnosis and treatment for ADHD:

“You’ve lived with this for over 50 years, why are you bothering to do anything about it now”.

I so wanted to slap him good. Imagine dealing with something for many years, believing it was “just you” and it was “normal for you, you are just that way” then finding all of them may be wrong, and there may be treatment? Painful jaw to chronic back pain to knees that won’t work, then suddenly finding someone who says “oh, yeah, we know what that is and we can deal with it”.

WOW, like you’ve been given hope and told that you aren’t “weird” or lazy after-all! (compared to “why bother with it now”)

Even among ADD people there are those with lesser severity, or different types (there are several types and combinations) there are those ADDers who just don’t “get it” when one of us has it REALLY REALLY bad, so bad, it’s ripping their lives apart. They have dealt with it, find something simple they can do to control it, and don’t understand why some of the rest of us struggle with it so. To me, they might as well not be classified ADD as theirs is totally different – as different as the people that have it.

Then to have it in combination with OTHER things, WHAM!

I’ve got a sleep issue, too. The heart doctor yesterday said he suspected narcolepsy……. others say no. I’m in-between on symptoms.

I’m wearing a heart monitor – so much stress and issues either caused by ADHD, or running in parallel with it, I’m feeling tight chest, arms and shoulder pains and tingly fingers for several days now. BP and a quick EKG showed all is good – but they aren’t really sure….

I think we’re all fine as long as you don’t tell me it’s a blessing and it can be a good thing at work. LOL – here, it can get you in huge trouble.

I’ve been at any given job only 7 years max……. and some for only 1 to 2 years.

Munchkin – I here ya:

>>I’m so sensitive about any criticism, and being told I’m playing the “ADD card.”<<

Yeah, I hear ya, loud and clear. Good luck – no one needs that, and from a spouse, it’s really hurtful. Virtual hugs from me.

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