Re: A facade that worked too well…apparently

[Anonymous]

Seriously, right? I don’t know many who would choose to be so hard on themselves just for kicks and giggles.

Thanks for sharing your perspective. It helped a lot. After I wrote the post, the amount of importance that I was placing on others to understand started to dawn on me and why it’s so important to me that they get it. I think it helped a lot to just type it out – to see how I was thinking in writing. You’re right – maybe most people don’t need to know and those who do will either get it or not – either way, not my problem.

I hope you find what you’re looking for in a relationship and with someone who will be supportive. Everyone needs a soft place to fall. To me, a soft place is a place without judgement where you can just be yourself. From what I’ve gathered in my research and reading thus far, it seems a lot of people with ADHD who aren’t diagnosed until they’re adults have done such a number on themselves and their self-esteem has taken such a beating and all starting from such a young age, that they essentially self-sabotage (whether they realize it or not) b/c they’ve become so insecure, protective, and self-loathing took over so long ago. It takes a lot of hard work to get to the point where their self-esteem is what it should/can be and they see themselves as just as good, if not better, than Susie Q or John Doe sitting next to them.

Whether this is right or not, I’m taking a break from the dating/relationship scene until I get things rolling with this new diagnosis. It’s only been a few weeks since I found out and there’s a lot that’s still sinking in. I don’t think I could handle this AND a relationship anytime soon. Sometime I hope, but not soon.

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