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Anonymous
Hey Kristy. Great post and I am happy for you that you were able to take steps in the right direction despite the fact it hasn’t been easy. Being in a relationship that is abusive is never a good thing, it is however very easy to understand why they are so hard to leave.
“Unfortunately, our marriage ended last June” but yet
“After I left him, I felt as if I was a human being again – I was actually alive. Everything was more vivid. Colors were brighter, music was more beautiful, and even food tasted better. I got back into my love and passion: the Theatre.”
The good days are the days we live for in an abusive relationship. That jackpot reward that is paid out so randomly and is wanted so bad it works better then in most healthy relationships. Remember the cars before say 1980? No fuel injection for most cars, on cold or damp days you had to pump the gas 2-3 times, turn the key for 3 seconds, wait, pump the gas and try again and if you were lucky it started, AND we were happy about it. Today, you go out turn the key the car starts, if it doesn’t we call a tow truck. It’s similar in relationships. You get used to putting up with the shit to get something worth while and we believe this is okay because the good days are that good. The reality is in a relationship we shouldn’t be hoping for good things, we should expect them. Spending all your energy affirming your partner, while they do nothing but accept it will suck the life out of you. If the relationship is out of balance and you’re doing all you can do, then getting out is the only option.
Embrace the possibilities, the freedom, the ability to feel happy and stop waiting to the other shoe to drop. If it does so what? The next minute is brand new and we can do what ever we want with it.
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