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It’s definitely perfectionism. I used to think that perfectionism was never being satisfied and always trying to be right, but the flip side is the constant fear of being in the wrong. I think it’s a defense mechanism we develop – we are so driven to not mess up that we are paralyzed. For me, the combination of ADHD and bullying while growing up made me very cautious around others, whether I knew them or not.
Certainly my treatment for ADHD has been helpful, but also just knowing that I am trying to be perfect when I don’t need to be helps.
One treatment I know of for perfectionism (which I’ve only tried in small increments) is to deliberately get out of your comfort zone. Do something wrong. If the world doesn’t end, then you’ve learned something and might be able to let go of that little thing that was holding you back.
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