Sometimes it’s them. We’re not the only people who talk too much. I think it makes a difference who I choose to talk with. People who don’t have respect for me are less likely to care what I have to say. Kind of a no win situation. In those cases I need to find other friends. It’s not fun but I need to be honest with myself about how well I choose friends. I kinda feel like I’m back in social skills kindergarden. At least I know where I’m at, right?. I’m not bewildered and confused like I used to be in the strange and surreal world of socializing.
If I had any real understanding of social skills I would share them, this is just stuff I’ve learned since I started understanding how my ADHD affects how I relate to people. Why I’m alone so much.
When I spend all my mental energy not interrupting, I’m less able to pay attention to what people are saying, I don’t know when they’re finished, barely know what they’re talking about, instead I’m thinking about what something they said reminded me of… N off I go!. I’m working on doing more listening than talking these days, it’s sorta refreshing, extremely difficult, and it’s a slow learning process. Wish me luck okay?.
Maybe on a subconscious level folks sense my social insecurity, and treat me how I expect to be treated, like a self fulfilling prophesy. Low self esteem seems to attract selfish people who dominate conversations, and relationships. Looking back even as far back as high school I can see how my friends mostly chose me. I settled for whatever social contact I could get, not a lot. Those days are over with. I’m building a new and better self image, self esteem. Finding the real me, and also discovering I’ve always had some good qualities, I just haven’t always been around people that could appreciate them.
It always comes back to looking at myself, my choices. And how I feel about myself. These are just a few pieces of my puzzle. It may or may not apply to your situations.
Some people are just pricks. I don’t blame you for getting pissed off at some of em. It’s a selfish world we’re living in. I’m no angel myself. But I’m less selfish than I used to be.
I’ll cut my ball and chain of shame if you will munch!. Deal?
Just cut that sucku loose girl 
LOL@ SayWhat, I can’t wait to use that one. Knock Knock jokes are the best kind of corny.
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