Re: how can i help him

[Anonymous]

Forgive me for taking so long to answer. I my grandmother had a stroke and i’m managing the house for my mom and got completely overwhelmed over the holidays and boycotted the computer. Thank you all so much for your comments.

@kc5jck- i guess i worded that wrong. at the time we were worried he had not been diagnosed and was (we assumed) a very active child. we have no problem with meds when needed, we just didn’t see the need then. i was more like your daughter which is part of the reason i’m so lost with how to handle this

@munchkin- thank you

@adamb- we’re working on the “being positive” (he does tend to only see the negative). therapy is something we are talking about. but he is such a private person he doesn’t want to talk to anyone outside the family (i’ll admit we’re all a bit like that. most of my relatives are of the “if you have a problem you fix it yourself” opinion)

@toofat – i agree it is common with is how this got bad before we realized it was a serious problem. its to the point he gets completely overwhelmed to the point of panic attacks.

he has a small circle of friends and family (cousins) but they’re slowly leaving for college and another group of friends online (he’s a gamer). he has a girlfriend but she lives out of state so they only call or chat online. he goes through spells of alot of activity with friends and then none at all (depending on how busy everyone is with school).

he used to attend ball games and dances at my cousins’ school but has withdrawn in the past year as most of his friends there left for college. he’s always been home schooled (i was as well) but has always been involved in sports or various activities at cousins’ school.

even when he attends activities he tends to withdraw, this is recent to the past 2-3 yrs, he used to be very outgoing.

i hope this gives a better picture. again thank you so much for your insight, i wish i could see things through his eyes so i knew what to do for him

~sister

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