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I would love to know the answer to this question. Fortunately, my husband is pretty understanding, but he has his limits. He’s a bit of a controller. He thinks that doing almost everything for me helps me, which is not always the case. In fact, it could be making matters worse. I have ADD. I was diagnosed as an adult. I need to have enough to do to keep sane. Managing the amount and type of activity is the tricky part. I survive and thrive on routine. Sometimes I feel selfish because I’m not always flexible to other’s needs, including my family. My 3 year old often sends my routine out the window! With God’s help, I am learning the balance between rigid routine and going with the flow. I hope this helps.

What really frustrates my husband is that I’m university educated and yet can follow a simple conversation with him at the end of the day (the most challenging part of my day). It’s a catch 22 – the more frustration he shows, the worse I feel about myself which isn’t helping either of us. Encouragement is huge!!!