@caper…. >>pete-puma: it seems like you’ve jumped from the floor of the courtroom to behind the bench. “Saying so is insulting, hurtful and ignorant”
I’m sure you are just expressing your opinion, rather than trying to express some psychological fact, so people should keep that in mind or else they are likely to get the impression that you think you are the judge of acceptable behavior.
I have yet to see anything written in these forums that I think was intentionally hurtful. I’ve seen some things written in what seems to be frustration or anger that could be hurtful. I’ve also seen some boasting that could be interpreted as condescending. <<
Thanks for saying some of what I was thinking.
In my “complaining” to friends (I do have a couple still, amazing) and colleagues, I’ve had two actually respond “what’s up with this, we view you are VERY successful and accomplished”
If they only knew what I COULD have done………. but wasn’t able to…… it’s like Patrick in his deal about starting to respond to an email and hours later has done all these others things he thought needed doing while he was on his way to do the email – and he never got the email done. That’s ME. Everything is 11th hour – or later, if at all. I’ve got a whole shelf full of alternators and starters to restore for folks – some have been there 3 months now. Why are they not done? Folks say my restoration work is second to none………. I think it’s second rate myself, but they keep coming to me. And I’m really slow.
We owned a business – for a while it was recognized world-wide among quilters, and we couldn’t go to a quilt show in the US without someone knowing about our store in Iowa.
It could still be around and even bigger and better had I done what needed to be done WHEN it needed to be done.
Our bills get paid only because of my wife.
If it was just me, alone, etc. – I’d be poor, in debt in a shabby run-down apartment unemployed.
No “aids” help me. One company I was with paid for and sent us to classes on things like the Franklin Planner, etc. – it went into a drawer.
I’m trying to keep a journal at work of all things that happen. Guess what – I’ll get caught up with it some day – maybe if I think of it or FEEL LIKE doing it.
Get me working on one of my cars – I’ll go none-stop for a whole weekend. But interrupt me, and she’s done for the day.
How does that translate into my job? I”m ok if I decide to get started on something, but interrupt me and it’s on the shelf for another month undone.
Again, no offense – but I agree with this quote from above……
>>There is also the flip side of your argument that it is hurtful. You must try and understand that to those who are moderate-severe, someone claiming to do something that has been absolutely unattainable without explaining how they did it is the equivalent of someone saying “just try harder and, see, you can succeed like me.” <<
Consider me VERY severe, I’m *lucky to be alive* – and you have no idea how STRONGLY I’m saying that. The fonts don’t go that large. I should have been shot, killed, died in a car crash, bled to death from a table saw tangle, you name it.
Someone must believe it’s not my time. or they have something else they want me to do. Yeah, add it to my list, I might get to it! …if I feel like it 