KO, this sounds very similar to my situation!……My daughter is 12 and is in an IEP program at school. I am having her tested for ADHD. I have felt for years that I had it as a child as well but my mother never even knew it existed probably. I went to my family phys. several years ago and in a round about way he told me that not many doctors believe in the adult version and that diagnosing is very complex and involves a phych……….I was very discouraged after that apt. and never followed through with it anymore after that. I am currently going to a phych. for some family issues and have been thinking about asking her if I could be assessed for the disorder.
My husband is very hard to talk too. He feels the same as yours, as if I’m trying to self diagnose all the time. I can’t even talk to him about this sort of stuff. I too suffer from anxiety but I also think there is more to it than just anxiety. I’m hoping to get some answers at my apt. this Wed……..I hope you get the answers you want as well 