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Re: My husband has ADD

Re: My husband has ADD2010-08-19T15:16:40+00:00

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Rick Green – Founder of TotallyADD
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I don’t know if these will help, but a couple of simple strategies for getting someone with ADHD onboard include…

Putting a time limit on it. And adding emotion. “This mess under the stairs really bothers me and looks awful. Can you spend ten minutes giving me a hand to tidy it up a bit. It would make me so happy.” Time limits help. We know it’s not forever. Start with small times. Even just two minutes.

Another thing that works is to make a game or challenge out of it. “I’m going to see if I can clean the car out and make it look fabulous in under half an hour. Want to see if we can do it together?”

And finally, heap huge amounts of praise on him when he does something. We need to hear the difference we are making. If he helps on something, don’t immediately jump to, “Great. Now the attic is driving me crazy…” or whatever. Celebrate, acknowledge, praise, show gratitude. Hugely motivating.

I know you’re feeling overwhelmed and getting into a positive state and giving him praise may be a challenge, but these three strategies work on me.