Re: Open Relationships

[Anonymous]

Hi Kylep,

I don’t know what you should or should not do, but I can share my experience. I have had a tendency to do the same thing. To avoid asking questions that might “rock the boat”. I think that when I feel that way, I really know the answers anyway. We, as a group, are fairly intuitive, right? But either way, going forward, I think (hope) that this will be a red flag for me — a relationship should be able to take having frank discussions, and better to know what the status is than not. Most recently, in hindsight, I think it would have been much easier to push the questions that would likely have ended the relationship 8-10 months earlier. But, on the other hand, it is not easy to be alone sometimes.

From my perspective, anyway, whether or not an open relationship is right, or something you should be in, is entirely up to you, your values, and what works for you. But that feeling of limbo/uncertainty…. yikes… what a terrible place to be in, and I allowed myself to be there far too long. I hope you get some resolution.

I may be projecting, based on the recentness of my experience, but I hope this is somewhat helpful.

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