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Anonymous
The problem, IMHO, is that everybody in the house has to be on the same page. If an ADDer is working like crazy to keep things organized — or to get organized — it is hopeless unless everybody cooperates. I can manage myself. I had to when I was single. I was really neat. I got teased about being so neat, but I knew I had to be.
But once I got married, I started to lose ground. My DH is messy and he has a lot — A LOT — of stuff. I make suggestions, offer to help, offer to organize it all, and he does not want any input at all. It is very hard on me.
I feel like everything within my view demands some attention, some energy, from me. The more stuff I see, the more drained I feel. It is hard to do anything because there is always something that needs doing between me and my first goal. So, I do my best for most of the house and I keep a couple of places for myself where I can sit and be calm. But it isn’t enough.
I find that I never do things I like to do — like bake, because there are too many obstacles. I will work like mad to clean up the kitchen and he will see the empty spaces (surfaces I need in order to cook) and he will buy more appliances. He likes to cook too, so it’s not that he doesn’t use the space. I swear that he can’t tolerate an empty space. And that is exactly what I need. (sigh)
So, don’t beat up on yourself for the clutter. It really requires cooperation.
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