Re: Question about my boyfriend (ADD)…

[starcat81]

Thanks for the replies.

I read through Eagerhelper’s post. I know sex addiction can be a part of this. I went through it through my early 20’s as did my boyfriend. The only thing that really put the brakes on for me was that I gained weight and didn’t feel very confident anymore. It’s still an issue now. I was already quite overweight when I started to take care of my mum last year (she had a form of Parkinson’s) and I ballooned another 25-30 lbs. over the time I was watching her. I also have back issues (bulging discs, one putting pressure on my sciatic nerve). Between those issues, sex is sometimes the last thing on my mind because I don’t feel sexy.

I guess I have a bit of a male mind because I also like talking, pictures, videos, but I also have times where I want candles and stuff. I have my own little collection of magazines and videos. I can understand how one can get addicted to it. I haven’t gotten that bad. My addictions are pleasure-related, though: shopping (retail therapy!), food (when you’re happy, when you’re sad, because nothing is on TV, …), drinking (I never get trashed, through I can drink a lot), smoking occasionally (I know it’s bad and all that but it honestly helps me think…or at least it seems to… this isn’t about me!). I find that I can control one and the others can go haywire. I stopped drinking for a time and that’s when I started smoking. Transference. Isn’t it a lovely thing?

Since I forgave him of all of it, I feel lighter and I feel more into him. I don’t know how it makes sense but that’s how it’s been the past few days. I guess I’m ready to make a new start of it. We have nearly 5 years behind us. You can’t forget that in a couple of days.

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