Re: Severe PMS

[Anonymous]

I had a tubal ligation at age 22 which made my already BAD periods worse. In the 80’s my husband pointed out that I had PMS. Lucky for him it was when I was a good time in the month to tell me. I was put on birth control low dose to help and it did with the periods but the mood swings were still there along with the migraines- all cycle related. I went on Seraphim to help (same as Zoloft/Prozac). WOW! that helped both ways- mood swings and migraines. Seven years ago, I had to go off birth control pills due to not tolerating the side effects. They put in a Mirena IUD that helped. But after 2 years, had problems with that and it had to be removed. Luckily the PMDD is not as bad in my 40’s. I am now 45 and doing okay. I can’t always tell at the time, but as soon as my period starts, I can look back a a couple of days and know I was in mood hell. My poor first husband lived through hell during my 20’s. I know it wasn’t easy at all. But he learned quickly that it wasn’t an excuse, as I could not stand being that way. He also learned quickly once when I told him that he needed to leave me alone and let me be or the argument would not be good. I told him I didn’t care if the President and all of Congress was on his side and he was right– there was still no way he would win the argument. He pushed on, I chewed him up one way and down another. The next day, I apologized and told him he was right, but for the sake of both of us, to respect that when I tell him I need space and it’s not a good time– don’t push it– it only hurts us both with things said and then the recovery from the aftermath. He did let it go after that. It was all prep for my daughter. Sadly, she also has “horrible” periods and PMS. So, by then, he knew to stay clear and if she hibernated during that time– let her.

I don’t think that guys realize that we do not enjoy being in our bodies during that time. It is not fun being on the emotional roller coaster from hell then the physical aspects of cramping and feeling like you are giving birth every month or having to watch the days to make sure you only were dark clothes or take an extra pair of pants to work.

I was denied a hysterectomy for the bad periods. He said that a hysterectomy wouldn’t resolve the PMDD.

Now, recently I realizing that roller coaster could have been made worse by my undiagnosed ADHD. Oh well, this is when I have to realize the past is just that. I can’t change it. All I can do it know that I am doing the very best I can for today.

I can tell you to try to stay away from caffeine as that does make symptoms worse, as mine are again since I switched to drinking lots of coffee to try to focus and have energy over the past couple of years. All this resulted in lots of doctor visits and progression of diagnoses of low vit D, anemia, and now ADHD. Hope now I can back off caffeine and still have focus and energy with decreased PMDD.

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