Re: Spouse of (potentially, but most likely) ADHD son and husband

[Anonymous]

Thank you Justin, SO MUCH, for your advice and personal story. I appreciate it more than you know. I’m so happy I found this site! I already feel at least a sense of direction, whereas before, I felt confused and had no idea where to start. Interestingly, due to the mother in law’s reaction, I totally backed off from talking to my husband about himself and have started focusing on asking him to get involved in adhd education for our son. I just showed him the intro to this site and asked him that he go on in to learn about strategies for dealing with our son. Hopefully in the process he’ll start warming up to the idea that he might be adhd as well.

I agree with you Justin, I believe it’s a gift, once it’s understood and I’m so optimistic for my son’s future. Unfortunately, at the moment my husband has spent 37 years undiagnosed and consequently (I believe) he has many years of poor self esteem built up which has lead to many side effects like alcohol abuse and smoking, along with extremely poor communication skills. Still, I remain hopeful that things can change.

For now, I will focus on my son as well as educating myself to try and help with my marriage and hope that along the way my husband will seek help voluntarily.

Thanks again Justin!

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