Re: Still struggling with things…..

[JimC.]

I’m no expert but what I see is you are overwhelming yourself: you start on self esteem, then wander into study/attention issues, the close with relationship problems.

If you start by focusing on you, and forget the rest, then break things into chunks. Your meds may/may not be wrong. You might need to try another kind such as Adderall or similar. This might alleviate the focus in class issues. Which takes me to the next part…

You know you’re not stupid, you’re interested, and cannot study or recall well. The meds might help but the point is that you need to get focused, pass the exams, and get a way to make a decent living. Once done, that’s a major step toward 1) focus/attention/retention, and 2) self esteem – you’ve accomplished a lot. You might consider a private chat with the course counselors or teacher in nursing to advise of your ADD, and ask if there’s any help available for course takers. Temper that with whether you think the instructor(s) will be receptive or not. If not, don’t do it. lastly, try repetition or writing things out until it sinks in. Painful, time-consuming, but it works for me.

Lastly on relationships. (I struggle there too), but an old sales trick that makes me more comfortable is to ask “what is the worst than can happen”? i.e. if you stick your hand up in class, and ask a question (while mortified it’s a dumb one), what’s the worst that can happen? Maybe some dufus might laugh at you, but you will get an answer from the teacher, and learn that it’s OK to ask. Remember, you paid for this, demand your money’s worth!

Good luck, Jim

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