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Patte Rosebank
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Sounds as if you’re going to have to educate your marriage counsellor on ADHD and its impact on relationships. Until she fully understands that, her advice is going to lean rather heavily in the direction of “Your husband is deliberately doing these things, because he lacks the restraint to control himself.” She needs to fully understand that it’s not a case of moral weakness, but a genuine medical condition. Maybe a letter from your husband’s psychiatrist would help, because it carries the weight of coming from a medical specialist, and because the specialist will know how to explain the situation and answer any questions that your counsellor may have.

It would also be very helpful if your counsellor viewed the film “ADD and Loving It”, at http://news.globaltv.com/Loving/2009300/story.html The film deals with the effect of ADHD on various aspects of daily life, including relationships.

And if your counsellor doesn’t have an hour to watch the film, this little video sums up the life of an ADHD person in just over 3 minutes: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_tQDfQKU2UY